How to Teach Kids to Do Their Laundry Independently

Teach your kids or teens laundry 101 with these basic steps.

“Is this one dark?” my daughter said enthusiastically as she held up a pale blue shirt.

“No, that one’s more of a light.” I replied, a little weary after answering similar questions of light vs. dark clothing nine times in three minutes.

Two weeks prior, just after her tenth birthday, I’d taught my daughter how to do her own laundry. And while she at first dragged her feet taking on this new chore, I could now tell she was feeling a bit more grown-up having been given this responsibility. This enthusiasm was coming through in trying to determine the light and dark clothes in her laundry basket.

About four minutes later and thirteen more questions, her laundry was in the washing machine.

Teaching kids how to do their laundry independently accomplishes a few things at once:

• It teaches kids a skill they’ll need when they’re living on their own
• It teaches children responsibility which is shown to help them academically, socially and later in their careers.
• It creates less work for you

But while you may be most motivated by that final point – less work for you – keep in mind that you’ll have to muster up a great deal of patience at first as your kids learn the steps needed to wash their own clothes.

Here are a few points to keep in mind as you teach your children how to master laundry 101:

Step #1: Turn clothes right side out

Or inside out, depending on the fabric.

Kids, of course, are notorious for not turning their clothes right side out (such as the classic leaving a pair of underwear stuck between pant legs). But now that they’re responsible for their own laundry, perhaps (we can only hope) it will become more obvious why it helps to turn clothes right side out.

If kids don’t turn clothes right side out immediately after taking off clothes, it will need to be the first step before placing clothes in the laundry. Of course, clothing with sequins and some delicate fabrics are better washed inside out.

Step #2: Read labels

The next step kids need to understand is the importance of reading clothing labels.

Labels tell a lot about a fabric – how it should be washed (dry cleaned or in the washing machine?), at what temperature, whether it can be among other fabrics in the machine, and how it should be dried.

If you’re interested in giving your kids a full tutorial about how different fabrics should be treated, check out this list.

Step #2: Sort laundry

Maybe, like most people, you think this step can be ignored. Or maybe you know it shouldn’t be ignored but you’re happy living in denial.

No matter where you stand on sorting clothing, it’s a good idea to teach kids the basics so they won’t end up with the proverbial red sock dying their white shirts.

True sticklers of clothing sorting not only sort by color, but also by fabric, and heavily stained items are best washed alone. Click here to see a full explanation of the best way to sort laundry.

Step #3: Pre-treat stains

Getting kids to recognize when a stain has occurred is often a challenge onto its own. And there’s a strong possibility that more than a few stains will go untreated.

But it’s clearly important to explain the basics of stain removal to your child as you teach them to do their own laundry. Not the least of which is that the best time to treat a stain is right after it occurs.

This stain removal chart from Real Simple magazine is one option to help kids navigate the complex world of stains. But the truth is, especially at the beginning, the best tactic may be to have your child bring their stained clothing to you so you can give them advice about specific stains.

Step #5: Load laundry in the washer and add detergent

The next step – loading laundry into the washing machine – may seem like a simple one, but beware that kids will be tempted to overload the machine.

Your child will need an explanation of just how many clothes they should place in the machine without them being crammed in (because trust me, your children will be inclined to cram as much in as they can).

Once that step is complete, demonstrate to kids how to measure the correct amount of detergent they’ll need for their load. And unless it’s obvious, they may also need to be guided to the correct place to add the detergent on your machine.

Step #6: Understand washing machine settings

This next step feels like the grown-up one for most kids as they’re finally able to understand and use a washing machine on their own.

Washing machine settings, of course, differ by machine. If you have any questions about washing machine settings, this list should help.

Step #7: Sort wet clothes

Once the washing cycle is complete, it’s time to dry clothes. But not all clothes can go into the dryer.

Be sure to explain to kids that anything with elastic, made with a delicate fabric or a fabric that recently had a stain on it is best air-dried.

Step #8: Begin dryer, but watch settings

Once all the dryer-appropriate laundry is in the dryer, explain to your child that it’s always best to check the lint filter and clear it. This is a protection against a potential dryer fire.

Next, explain the dryer settings to your child – when it makes sense to use high heat and when not to, and for how long clothes should be dried.

Step #9: Fold and put away laundry

While you may not be perfect at folding and putting away your laundry right after it comes out of the dryer (hand raised here!), it’s worth it to let kids know the benefits of this practice.

Also helpful is a quick tutorial on the best way to fold certain items. Underwear and socks, for example, can be tricky and it may take kids a few times to practice folding these items before they get them right.

If you know realistically your child won’t put his or her clothes away immediately, this would be a good time to set an expectation, say one or two days, before all clothes should be put in their proper place.

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